So, last month I didn’t wish someone Happy Birthday.
It was the first time since I have known them that I haven’t seen them in real life or sent some sort of greeting.
And ever since I have been thinking about my thinking behind my decision.
Is that weird? Should it be that big a deal?
No, of course it shouldn’t, yet here I am still stewing over it, while my rational brain is telling me that the birthday person is question probably didn’t even notice!
But, therein lies my dilemma:
What is Happy Birthday etiquette?
Is it like gift giving, and it’s all about the thought being the thing that counts? You wish salutations for a good day of being born and you don’t expect a similar greeting in return?
How many times do you wish someone a Happy Birthday without them saying it back before you stop? Do you ever stop? Are you the better person because despite not having the favour returned, you have remembered that one day a year is all about that person? What about belated birthday greetings? Is a day or two okay? A week? Or, if you missed the day, do you just ignore it and move on?
And how does this all change in a time of Facebook posts? How real is a Facey birthday greeting?
What do you think is appropriate birthday etiquette?